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January 18, 2008
I was recently a victim. Not of a terrible crime, or meaningless accident. I wasn’t held against my will and forced to listen to recruitment videos.
No I was the victim of judgment.
Don’t get me wrong I believe people are entitled to their opinions, and we have the right to voice them. I just never thought I’d hear that judgmental tone used on me by this person.
It was shocking.
Although I frequently allude to my own superiority, with a know-it-all attitude, I realize I am not perfect. I make mistakes. Regularly. Most of my days are spent drowning in a pool of self-imposed torture questioning the things I do or don’t do. I examine, reflect, study and scrutinize. As you can imagine this is exhausting and leaves very little time for implementing and change. But as a wise man once said it’s the thought that counts.
So on reflection, after my bout with judgment I have decided to recant some of the judgmental thoughts I have had and see them in a new light.
The wearing of shoulder pads/lyrca/a mullet/fur is a personal fashion choice.
Just because you don’t bathe everyday, is not a reflection on your overall personal hygiene.
Giving him another chance after he cheated again means you are a forgiving optimist, not stupid.
You drive fast, ignoring lights, other vehicles and the highway code because you are a busy important person.
You are social and do not have a drinking problem
If you call an addiction a passion you are zealous not in denial
If you are over 30 and the only furniture you have is a futon and a tv, you are minimalist, not a loser and I want to date you.
They are not fake just very pert.
Everyone should strive to improve themselves, if plastic surgery helps and you want to look like a lion, good for you.
A grown adult still living at home shows really strong family ties.
Just because you can run fast does not mean you are boring
Forgetting to eat means you are forgetful not weird.
If the conversation always seems to revert back to you, you are worldly with vast experience and numerous exciting stories, not self absorbed;
Being a vegetarian with strong views on animal rights while wearing leather shoes is not a contradiction, I will take you seriously and not call you a fake-bean-sprouting-tree-hugger.
There are such things as a coincident.
Posted by Ali at January 18, 2008 12:53 PM
Comments
I would never judge like that. At least not to anyone's face. hee hee
Have a great weekend.
Posted by: P.O.M. at January 18, 2008 1:34 PM
Oooh. I'm going to have to go ahead and disagree with you there about the fast runner thing.
Posted by: Vanilla at January 18, 2008 2:39 PM
Just because you fail to put a full stop after "boring" doesn't mean you are careless; you may be a fast typist trying to overcome OCD tendencies.
If you run slowly, that doesn't mean you are interesting.
Posted by: Ewen at January 18, 2008 7:59 PM
Does that trump me being a victim of the pint of Ben and Jerry's ice cream tonight? (umm, with sprinkles....and whipped cream.)
Posted by: tea at January 19, 2008 12:22 AM
I'm with ya on the veggie/shoe thing . . . leather car seats count too, right?
Posted by: Runner Susan at January 21, 2008 9:02 AM