me too
and he's smart. successful... talented.
tall. he's really tall. i stand on my tip-toes to lean up to kiss him and fumble with his legs when we're on the couch.
he curls up next to me while we watch tv, and his arm falls asleep because i can't help but lay on him.
he sings one or two lines from a song he's heard that day... quietly, in my ear, and gives me chills... i'll giggle and squirm, and he'll do it again.
when we watch our team play, he'll shake his head at my lack of knowledge for a game i love so much, and laugh as i whooosh after every made free-throw.
he plays with my hair. pushes it back from my face when it gets outta control, and runs his fingers thru my curls.... always ending in a tangled frenzie-my hair's impossible-but when i apologize he just answers with a kiss.. and attempts to de-tangle.
he's sweet. he's attentive. he knows when i want that glass of water, but that its just out of reach, so he leans over to get it for me...
and its not that it's such a crazy thing to do... its just that he does it. without me asking him to, and he'll just smile at me when i hand it back.
he calls me. just to say hi, hows your day, and.. come over i want to see you.
he's comfortable. he wraps me up and we go to sleep and it just feels right.
so last night all i wanted was a "me too". just a small one. no other words, no other talking, just between whispers and a small i like you.. i just wanted a me too.
but i didnt get it. he didn't say it.. didn't say anything. and it broke. whatever it was that fit so well with us.. it broke.
there was no me too. just silence, a look, and afterwards, back home in my own bed...
a tear. cuz i really liked him.. but i needed the me too.
Comments
DATE: 2:06 PM
wow.. i'm really sorry. there isn't a worse feeling when you hear that silence.it sucks... but everything happens for a reason. it just means there is someone BETTER out there for you!hang in there....
Posted by: Anne | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 1:43 PM
aww..sounds like what you really need is a bike...=)
Posted by: J | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 7:40 AM
Yeah, men are stupid. I've heard that before somewhere...wait, i know where: outta my mouth!just remember: YOU'Re funny. YOU'RE funny in a way YOU don't even know.and YOU'Re smart. successful... talented.If saying "me to" to I like you is too big a committment for him...too scary, well, god, what is this world coming to? I mean REALLY. I don't agree with the school of you have to shake it outta him. Even though he's a man, he can't possibly be that stupid.I say: He should BE so lucky as to have you.
Posted by: jeanne | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 7:24 AM
so i agree with all those comments about how he says it with his actions, and all that crap. but it sucks, and i'm sorry, and i hope that you don't let it break, and i hope that you take him by the shoulders and shake the "me too" right out of him.cuz that's what I do even after 8 years.
Posted by: Running from my House | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 8:15 PM
Just another testament to show that boys suck. HOWEVER, his actions are demonstrating that he enjoys your company and is interested in you. But you are one fierce lady. While you may *want* him to say it back, you certainly don't *need* him to. Great things come to those who are patient. Hang in there, toots!
Posted by: Running Jayhawk | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 7:42 PM
Sorry you had to go through that. Hang in there. =)
Posted by: qcmier | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 5:35 PM
I'm with Karyn. Everything he does says "me too". That's why he does it. He just doesn't 1) know how to say it verbally (because he's a guy) and 2) know that you need to hear the words outloud (because you're a woman).Hang in there A. Maria. Talk to him. He sounds like he's pretty special to you.
Posted by: Jon in Michigan | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 4:55 PM
um, if all that is going on and he can't say "me too" to "I *LIKE* you"... he's got some serious issues baby. Sorry to say. Run... run.... run.... away.
Posted by: T-Metz | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 3:37 PM
Hun...I hate to tell you this, but men are stupid. Tell him you need to hear it. He probably likes you but has no clue how badly you need to hear the magic little words. It took me years and a very communicative husband to figure that out...
Posted by: Keryn | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 2:14 PM
hey, i feel for you.i'm not on his side - i don't even know him. but are you sure you didn't push him into something he wasn't ready for? is there definitely no chance here?be well.
Posted by: Danny | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 2:08 PM
I hope you find the time and go run. Sure men are stupid but I also hope you find it in yourself where you don't need him to provide you validation. On the other hand we all do enjoy and like having some emotional feedback.I hope it works out well for you.
Posted by: Kurt | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 2:02 PM
........ a loophole in what?!and what does he need to read my mind for? i just TOLD him how i felt.. that was the whole point?!anony... no wonder you get yelled at.. go re-read my post!!!*grumble grumble*
Posted by: a.maria | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 1:51 PM
Are you sure you're not looking for a loophole?Men are notoriusly bad mind readers. I should know, I get yelled at for it all the time.
Posted by: Anonymous | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 1:08 PM
boys can be dumb.
Posted by: mipper | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 1:05 PM
Hon, please learn this early: you don't NEED to hear it.The only person you NEED to hear say "me too"- is you.
Posted by: stronger | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 11:42 AM
Well if he turns out to be as good as the picture you painted he will get his act together asap.
Posted by: walchka | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 9:54 AM
You'd think that going through that same situation so many times would give me some wisdom to share with you... However, all I can seem to come up with is girls rule and boys drool.Sorry. :(I hear the men in "SHHH" are hot, though. And they KNOW how to treat the ladies over there! Score 2 for SHHH. Now there's a WOOOSH!
Posted by: Nic | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 7:49 AM
Maybe he thought he heard "I Love You" instead of "I like You" and freaked out--like guys do. :)I hope things work out. You sound so cute together.
Posted by: april anne | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 7:30 PM
oh sweetie ... sometimes they find it harder to say than we do. But yes, if your gut tells you no, don't waste the fabulous pretty on him ... you're too cool for that
Posted by: Riona | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 5:48 PM
ugh...I felt the heartbreak just reading that...i know that feeling ..and i hate it..hate it hate it hate ithe sounds great and fabulous..but if he's not going to like you back and muster up the gumption to do something about it..then don't waste the pretty on himthe perfect guy would say "i like you too"
Posted by: Amanda | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 5:26 AM
Sorry, men are terrible verbal communicators too.I guess by loophole, I meant there were so many other things you listed that already meant he likes you. I mean, the man sings to you. What man sings that isn't in, um, like?Ok, I'll stop now before I make it worse. Sorry if I caused any unnecessary bad feelings.
Posted by: Anonymous | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 12:33 AM
I'm with Jeanne on this one
Posted by: craig | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 7:53 AM
I told myself not to comment on this, but I just can't help myself....Sometimes we (girls) want people (mainly boys) to say something so badly that WE (not them) make it a devastation when they don't say it. They cannot read our minds. Everything that you say he does says he likes you back. Next time just say what you want AND what you want to hear (ie, "I like you alot, and it would make me feel great to hear that you like me too...")Really, it's not that hard and it's not not not not submissive/un-feminist/whatver to say what you want to hear. If anything, it is very liberating to have enough gonads to be able say exactly what you want and what you want to hear. And then, then, then, if he keeps his silence dump him like a load of bricks.Ps. loved the way you told the story :)
Posted by: Amy | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 9:39 AM
I agree with Amy. I have lost count of the times I have got mad, angry or wept tears because things didn't go how I imagined them in my head. Men are different, in their actions and the way they communicate.Next time you see him or when the situation arises you should talk about how you feel and how this made you feel ... otherwise you'll bottle it up and explode over something really insignificant.
Posted by: ali | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 6:53 AM
i know you posted this a while ago and you probably don't need/want more comments...but...everyone is right. you deserve MORE than 'me too'. way more. so if he can't even say that...screw him. you'll find someone who can freaking innitiate the whole conversation.
Posted by: Curly Su | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 3:28 PM
alej, are you feeling any better?i agree with sjt too as well. why isn't he on his knees on your doorstep saying "ME TOO! ME TOO!"?one of my favorite quotes lately is "if you're looking for a catch, stay out of shallow waters." you are an awesome catch. fish in depper waters, where you belong. ;)
Posted by: mipper | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 2:07 PM
omg SJT is like my new favorite person ever!THANK you!
Posted by: a.maria | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 1:49 PM
I'm sorry hun but I have to comment on this. I've read your blog for a while, and from what I've read I don't understand why guys aren't absolutely killing themselves to date you. I'm guessing you have a million and one options other then this guy. But here's the deal, if "me too" or "I like you too" is too much of a comittment for him to say right now, then he's most definitely afraid of committment. I speak from experience, I'm definitely a committmentphobe(I don't think that's a word) and guys are definitely retarded when it comes to realtionships. BUT every guy knows that when a girl says something like that it needs some kind of response. It doesn't matter if he's madly in love with you, or if he just likes you, or he absolutely hates you. If he's too afraid of saying "me too" then it's time to find someone else, because all you'll get out of him is a lack of committment and a lot of frustration. Take care
Posted by: SJT | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 10:30 AM
As a dude, it always kinda pisses me off when chicks are always saying "boys are dumb". Half the comments on here say something similar. In my opinion, he's showing he likes you by all the stuff he's doing. Guys don't play with the hair of girls they don't like. Guys don't cuddle with girls they don't like. Guys don't sing into the ears of girls they don't like. I think everything is fine. Best of luck.
Posted by: Anonymous | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 4:44 PM
We all want the perfect relationship, but most us have to settle for human partners :) If you consider the 'me too' to be a deal breaker then by all means, give him the flick. But in my experience, actions speak louder than words. For some blokes, the words just flow; whether they can actually live up to those words, that's another matter entirely. Sounds like he was doing pretty well with the latter, if not the former.
Posted by: Anonymous | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 7:14 PM
OK, don't freak over this. BUT, how is he acting? Is he ACTING like "me too..." ? I know you want the mushy stuff, and what fabulosa doesn't, but don't take this as the bomb that leveled Utopia. YET.#1, how long have you been seeing him? #2, does he talk a lot anyway, or not? #3, is this the only thing wrong, he didn't say "me too"? And DO NOT jump my $hit hermanita :) I'm just sayin... No, do not settle, but give him a chance to become Prince Charming here if it's only been a little while, feel me? If it's been a while, like several months or so, yeah, throw him back - but remember, perfect men are not born, they are made, chulita.
Posted by: Wil | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 12:13 PM
Ok, I wanted to add something beyond the 'Boys are stoopid' meme we have going on here.Maria, give it time. He obviously likes you. He's spending time with you, he enjoys being with you, but he might not be ready to say so yet. Don't throw this away because it didn't happen the way you saw in your head. It takes two people to make a relationship -- two individuals with their own personalities and ideas.What would be better, him being honest and saying nothing, or saying 'me too' and not meaning it?
Posted by: bitweever | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM
DATE: 4:55 PM
I've of two minds, my first reaction was "wow, A. Maria's got a boyfriend, how long have I been in the trenches missing the blogging world go by?" That to me implied that the relationship was new, maybe you both are getting your footing in this whole relationship thing.HOWEVER, being one (it seems according to the ladies) of a hand full of men who are able to communicate effectively and express myself to the right person, I wonder what's wrong with dude that he didn't say it first.
Posted by: Okolo | July 4, 2006 8:02 PM