icepick. ear.
alright. i've about had it.
everyone and their uncle's mother is dating someone right now, and i swear i'm going to poke my ear out with an ice pick soon if i get another -- "OMG! i had the most amazing date with the most amazing guy and it was totally amazing, and OMG! let me tell you every detail and gush for days on end because OMG! he's so amazing!" -- phone call.
i will poke my ear out!
singletons are dropping like flies around here. yet another one of my guys is engaged as of last weekend, and i just got two messages from two other guys asking me for my address so i can attend yet another summer full of weddings.
i mean COME ON.
and everyone loves inviting me. because inviting me isn't the same as inviting other, normal people. inviting me, putting me on the guest list... they know i'm not a "plus one". i never am. i am the token single friend that attends all their weddings, and dances with all their little brothers, because i never take a date.
because i never have a date.
and now, with the apparent influx of visitors to COUPLESLAND... well.
my singleness has pretty much been solidified.
aaaaaaaaaaaawesome.
*sigh*
the thing is, i really don't mind. and i'm busy. and mostly, i'm too busy to even try to mind. and..
well, really. that's mostly a lie. let's not kid.
for the past two years i've worked on me. me! its been all about me. about becoming and evolving and growing and working.. all on me. for me. because of me.
and it's been great. and i've needed it. and i wouldn't have it any other way, but lately.. with everything in my life that's changed, i guess the "me" thing has changed a little too.
having surrounded myself with the people that i have, watching them, and their lives... i've learned a lot. but its not just about their fitness. their... i dunno. nutritional choices. their careers. the way they manage it all... its not just about that.
its about their relationships. and the ways they can share, and be a part of each others lives, in a way that's more than just "what'd you do at work today honey?!" and "let's go catch a movie and dinner".
i don't want to take anything away from my girfriends that gush about the wine bar they went to with their "totally precious, he drives a BMW, omg, you should see his condo, i want to marry him" new man. i get that. i used to be that. and sometimes i probably still am, to some girly degree, i guess maybe we all are..
but what i want is something more. someone who gets it. someone who knows what i mean when i say i need to work on my 10k pace, my chain keeps dropping when i go from the big chain ring to the middle and for the love of gawd, why can't i master these flip turns?!
someone who won't get annoyed when i have to go to bed at 9pm so i can wake up and ride...who will kick my ass outta bed and MAKE me go ride. someone who will drop me like a bad habit on some monstrously huge hill when i need it, will stay back with me when i don't, and who will know the difference just by the look on my face.
someone who will laugh when i curse because really? is it possible to go any slower than i actually am right at this very moment?! and will celebrate when i finally, one day, break that 5 hour marathon mark.
i want all that. and i'm probably asking a lot, especially considering whoever i end up with will there by also end up with me, but..
the summer time romance, giddy, giggling, girly phonecalls that sound something like --- "i dunno. i think he likes me. i mean we had a good time. and he kissed me on the cheek! THE CHEEK! it was so cute. i really like him. we're going out again saturday. what do you think we should do? what should i wear!? what do you think, wait.. here's his picture.. isn't he cute!?......" -- has gotta stop.
because i think i'm going insane.
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yeah. okay. i know, completely.
and 5(!) of my long time friends are freaking getting married this summer and i was invited to all of them and you know what? i'm not going. i'm happy for them, but i don't want to go. is that bad?
Posted by: curly su | June 15, 2007 1:48 PM
1) The OMG he drives a beamer and is so cute guys never last.
2) Working on you is the best thing you could do - but you already know that. When I finally stopped worrying about the OMG He's So Cute guys and worked on me, the Best Guy On the Planet fell into my lap. (We've been married 9 years.) And had I not put the time into tweaking me up front, it never work have worked out. I'm SURE the same will happen for you because you're smart, motivated, independent, very pretty and super self confident. In short, you're perfection to a real man. (And intimidating to the shallow cute beamer types, who probably don't deserve your interest anyway.)
3) Don't sweat it too much if they don't totally understand all the tri stuff. The right one can still be massively supportive and kick you out of bed for workouts even if it's a foreign language to them.
Posted by: Siren | June 15, 2007 1:52 PM
I might have to poke my ear out too. I'm sadly single as well but most of my friends are NOT!
Posted by: Jessica | June 15, 2007 1:53 PM
Awww. You have grown (and are growing) up, hermanita. And WHEN (not if) you find someone who loves to swim, bike, and run with you, really WITH you, you will have something with a much firmer foundation than a BMW or condo. (But you knew this already.)
As my mom said, "you will marry the last person you date." So, date that kind of person. EZ, right? not really.
Posted by: Greyhound | June 15, 2007 1:55 PM
Hey, if that guy you described has a twin brother, will you send him my way? :-)
Posted by: Danielle in Iowa | June 15, 2007 3:34 PM
You described HIM perfectly. You will find what you are looking for, believe it.
Posted by: Laurie | June 15, 2007 5:48 PM
I feel the same frustrations, watching everybody else zoom by with life. Sometimes it makes me feel like I'm standing still.
But then I remember that all the stuff I'm doing for me right now is just prepping me to meet the right person, whenever that is.
You'll find that guy. You'll get there.
Posted by: The Rover | June 15, 2007 7:06 PM
Welcome to the club! I feel as if you took my thoughts and but them into your blog. No dates for weddings, friends all around getting engaged... I am still waiting for that one to come around and find me. I swear I am not hiding from her.
Posted by: Al Durham | June 15, 2007 10:26 PM
Just keep doing what you are doing and make sure you are involved in as many tri/running/health clubs as possible because that's where this guy is. He's out there getting faster and stronger and fitter and wondering where are all the women who are not gold digging airheads who like to swim and run and cycle. That or fitness-singles.com
Posted by: 21stCenturyMom | June 15, 2007 11:15 PM
Please believe me that love will find you when you least expect it. Just hang in there and continue being YOU. Prince Charming and the lifetime of Happily Ever After is seriously worth the wait.
I know it sucks (a little bit) being the token single friend- but believe me, as a former "singleton" nothing is more satisfying than being able to look back at your singlehood and say "I rock today because of the way I rocked back then."
Posted by: Anonymous | June 15, 2007 11:38 PM
Although I love being married and wouldn't take it back for anything, I'm sort of envious of you. I mean, at 27, you have the whole world open to you. You can travel, spend money on ridiculous stuff, do whatever you want whenever you want...you can have all these amazing experiences that those of us in long-term relationships can't always do. (Not that I can't do fun stuff -- I just can't do it as spontaneously as I did when I was single.) Knowing how cute, funny and awesome you must be, you WILL find someone eventually that deserves you. Like everyone else said, keep living your life and the right time will come. And weddings = free booze.
Posted by: Tough Cookie | June 16, 2007 7:06 AM
Although I love being married and wouldn't take it back for anything, I'm sort of envious of you. I mean, at 27, you have the whole world open to you. You can travel, spend money on ridiculous stuff, do whatever you want whenever you want...you can have all these amazing experiences that those of us in long-term relationships can't always do. (Not that I can't do fun stuff -- I just can't do it as spontaneously as I did when I was single.) Knowing how cute, funny and awesome you must be, you WILL find someone eventually that deserves you. Like everyone else said, keep living your life and the right time will come. And weddings = free booze.
Posted by: Tough Cookie | June 16, 2007 7:06 AM
Ditto to what Siren said. Man, if I lived in Kansas City... :-)
Posted by: Cliff | June 16, 2007 10:02 AM
pass the icepick when you're done, ok?
Posted by: jeanne | June 16, 2007 10:03 AM
I am so with you on that hon...My circle of choices has dwindled to the boys who act just like us...the ones that know what it means to work on our 10K pace...and why we get up at 4:45 3 days a week and PAY for some Olympian to yell at us to run as fast up that hill...and the next one too...why we dont put "that" in our bodies...
Yes, I do feel your pain...but it would appear that all those GUYS are freaking married...
Posted by: JustJunebug | June 16, 2007 10:50 AM
i know this isn't the point but i am in the same boat (the token single person)! we can be each other's fallback dates! my friends have fun weddings! promise!
Posted by: eddie | June 17, 2007 7:13 PM
i know this isn't the point but i am in the same boat (the token single person)! we can be each other's fallback dates! my friends have fun weddings! promise!
Posted by: eddie | June 17, 2007 7:17 PM
Seriously, we must be in the same life in different geographical locations!! I am the same way, always the "single" one, never with a date, etc...I feel ya girl. Lets go find OUR man.
Posted by: Meagan | June 18, 2007 8:55 AM
Oh my...that post SO made me get the giggles. And then it made me feel really grateful that I'm married. To someone who also does triathons and (usually) puts up with my incessant whining about being slow. And that I don't have many single friends anymore (at least ones who aren't divorced).
When it's time, your hawt triathlon guy will appear...out of the mists of the bike trail...and sweep you off your Nikes! :)
Posted by: Andra Sue | June 18, 2007 10:33 AM
ha ha! i landed on your page through one of the various running websites i visit and i SWEAR, you must be living my life...just in a different part of the country.;) i don't tri, just run marathons, but my love life (or lack thereof), is yours exactly. you know the saying "always a bridesmaid, never a bride"? well, i am about to be in my SEVENTH wedding in a couple of weeks!!! still trying to figure out what i'm doing wrong....
someone needs to have one big party for all the single, athletic, 20-something year olds to wallow in misery together.;)
Posted by: kara | June 19, 2007 4:41 PM