Little Miss Runner Pants

hey! i know it doesn't help much, but for what it's worth...i'm in the (EXACT) same boat...

I'm also in the same boat, though my job is not stressing me out as much as my personal life. I've got an 8-month old son, but me and his mother live three hours a part because we can't stand one another.
My advice: Get a shrink.

Just trust your gut.

Um ... what happened? I clicked here to comment on another post, but now it's gone.

I hope you work things out.

Robert Frost wrote a blog post about this situation once. It was about some guy that is on a long run and ends up in some sort of weird forest and instead of turning around decides that he has to choose one of the paths (maybe he had more miles to run, i dunno).

Anyway, he looks down one path and then the other and decides to choose the one that is 'less traveled by.' Of course, in the description of the paths earlier in his poem, err blog, both of them look exactly the same.

The point is that you have to make a choice and you have to live with that choice. You have to continue to make the choice over and over. And if you see one path as right and one as wrong, you're sunk.

If you see it as an opportunity for adventure, you are living. The choosing is what has made all the difference.

Listen to your heart.

I hear you barkin, big dog. I'm also in the same boat.

Boy do I wish I knew the answer..

I have this going on now as well. However, as usual I think I've made the wrong decision, and I know its wrong, but I am doing it anyway.

Stupid boys.

i usually make my best decisions when im drinking. so im really of no help.

You don't. I'm living the same doubt - though possibly over different things - right now.

There are several ways to make a decision.
1). Go with your gut
2). Go with your heart
3). Analyze the situation with a list of Pros and Cons and make a pragmatic choice.
4). Ask someone else to make the decision for you and live with it
5). Choose straws
6). Consult the Ouija board
7). Dial a pyschic
8). Bounce stuff off someone who is good enough to listen and not comment and let the right choice come to you.
9). Throw darts (roughly the same as drawing straws but your aim might be guided by your desire).
10). There is no 10. Making decisions is an odd process.

Whatever you do DO NOT listen to the self-deprecating voice that says you are not ... whatever. Listen to the voice that says "I am" and "I want" and "I deserve" and "I can".

Nothing is good or bad but thinking makes it so

Nothing is good or bad but thinking makes it so

You don't. You take the time you have, gather all the facts and feelings you have and then decide. And don't think about the alternative. And trust yourself. If it's something you are not sure of and can wait, best to wait.

geeze, you got shakespeare and robert frost commenting, who needs me?

The best advice I ever got was: You rarely regret DOING things, but you often regret NOT doing them.

I have no idea if that's true or not, but thought I'd toss it out there.