omg. i'm getting old.
so i think i had my first glimpse of what it'll be like when i turn thirty.
... and from what i can tell... it ain't gunna be good.
several of my friends here in kansas city are on match.com. they're having a good time meeting random guys, flirting, and lets be honest...
making out with cute boys faces...
so i decided, HEY!... i need to get in on this!... and so i did.
(noo noo.. not the making out with boys faces part. yet! .. just the getting on match.com part.
and i know. I KNOW. online dating. stigma. uncool. yeah i know.
but if there are faces to make out with.. who am i to turn them down!!?)
so.. i got online, set my sights on austin, and away i went.
everything was going well, fine, according to plan until... a few days ago... i got a "wink" from some new guy.
but by new... i kinda mean old.
i opened my email, read his profile and thought nothing of it until i realized underneath his pic it read... 35 years of age!!!
ewwwwww. he's OLD. what the hell is he doing winking at ME!!!
and i got all skeeved out.
but then i sat there and sorted out the math..... double ewwwwww. he's not that much older than me!!! but if i thought he was old....
..... THAT MEANS I AM TOO!!!!
son. of. a. bitch.
it suddenly hit me like a ton of bricks....
i'm actually to the age now where dating a guy that's 35 really isn't that big of a deal.
BUT I'M ONLY TWENTY EIGHT!!!! --- and that's when my mind started reeling.
28 years old.
TWEN.TY.EIGHT.
8 is really close to 10.
and next week is my half-birthday.
which mean's i'll be 29 soon.
and 29 is practically 30!!!
i'm going to be over the hill...
WHAT IN THE HELL AM I GOING TO DO!!!?!?!?
*sigh*
revelations of this order are a bit hard to take.
its sort of like in college out at the bars when, for the first time, i met some cute guy and instead of swapping numbers on a napkin... he handed me his business card.
i just remember laughing hysterically at him like... who the hell gives out business cards!? are you SERIOUS!!?!
.. he was.
i was officially at the age where people started swapping cards.
my girlfriends and i went home that night freaking out that we were getting old.
business cards. shit. he's like... an ADULT! weeeeeird!!!
i will never forget that night.
not just because of the business cards.
or the cranberry vodka i threw up in our front yard.
or the huge ass pizza we got on the way home, or the late night girl talk with my roomies...
but it was the first time i realized college would be ending soon, "real life" was just around the corner and, holy shit...
WHAT IN THE HELL AM I GUNNA DO!!?!?!
so for the past few days, i guess i've been feeling those same basic things..
except... substitute salad for taco bell... a bottle of water for a can of beer.. a self-imposed 10 o'clock curfew and, omg. shit!
i really AM getting old!!!
help!!
Comments
i'm 36 beyotch!!! don't make me come all the way to austin and kick your 28 year YOUNG ass!!! seriously though, i freaked out after i turned 29. thought i had "a year left" whatever that meant. but turning 30 actually rocked. 36 year old me can totally kick 26 year old me's ass all over the road, so you can look forward to years of getting faster, stronger, and way more fierce!! and believe you me, you're gonna start liking the 35 year old guys soon enough. they just have their shit way more together.
Posted by: monica | June 25, 2008 9:38 PM
Okay, so I feel kind compelled to point a few things out, being that I'm ancient and all (32). "Old" guys tend to be a little more mellow, not so filled with drama. Way less flake-y. More concerned with personality and intelligence, rather than giant fake boobs. And you know, the old ones, they have this great stuff called money and they can buy you presents with it and shit like that.
Not to mention that they've dated plenty of crazy ass women by the time they hit 35 and will likely be more appreciative of your sanity and drive for self improvement. More appreciative than, say, someone who's 23, and has only dated chicks from the sorority located next door to his frat house.
Just sayin'. :)
Posted by: Andra | June 25, 2008 9:43 PM
Okay, so I feel kind compelled to point a few things out, being that I'm ancient and all (32). "Old" guys tend to be a little more mellow, not so filled with drama. Way less flake-y. More concerned with personality and intelligence, rather than giant fake boobs. And you know, the old ones, they have this great stuff called money and they can buy you presents with it and shit like that.
Not to mention that they've dated plenty of crazy ass women by the time they hit 35 and will likely be more appreciative of your sanity and drive for self improvement. More appreciative than, say, someone who's 23, and has only dated chicks from the sorority located next door to his frat house.
Just sayin'. :)
Posted by: Andra | June 25, 2008 9:44 PM
Hey now! 30 ain't so bad! And 31 has been even better :)
I got together with my husband when I was 26 and he was 39! If I'd let age alone lead me along, I'd have missed out on someone who appreciated my dog for all his weirdness, supports my triathlon ambitions (and is willing to listen to me fret over my swim times for hours at a time) and anything else I want to do, treats me like I have the body of a goddess, and makes me forget 99% of the time that we even have an age difference.
You have to just plan to do 30 up right. I celebrated mine with the Big Sur marathon - just to prove my body was capable of great things at an "advanced" (LOL) age. :)
Posted by: Molly | June 25, 2008 10:02 PM
Oh Ms. Runner Pants, let me tell you that the BEST THING EVER is turning 30. I'm 33 and I have to say that the last 3 years beat the crap out of anything in my 20s. Seriously. Plus, there's this whole theory I have about men that they go through some kind of big maturation phase somewhere between 28 and 32... and boy, does it work out well for us. I get SO MUCH more male attention since I turned 30-- and plenty of it from men in their 20s, which is all very interesting. I know I have a lot more confidence than I did in my 20s, and apparently it shows. Every other friend of mine has had the same experience, so I don't think that me and the previous 2 posters are anomalies. Trust me. 30 is an age to look forward to. In a big way.
Posted by: victoria | June 25, 2008 10:05 PM
a). You're making me feel like I fart dust
b). You will get propositioned by 40 and 50 year olds who look in the mirror and actually think they look JUST like they did at 25. They will post pics of themselves that are ancient, believing they still look like that.
c). Look at the men's profiles. One after the other will be of a guy who is 45 looking for women who are 25-30. It's a sickness.
You are not getting old - men can just be really delusional and perverted.
d). You are hot in your 30s and smoking hot from 40-45. You have nothing to worry about until you get there and it is a LONG way off. Trust me.
Posted by: 21stCenturyMom | June 25, 2008 10:52 PM
lmao - I was talking to my ex who, at the time, didn't really make a big deal out of age so I kind of ignored the fact that he's older than me.
Until we started talking goals and I had all my "when I turn 30" and he had all his "before I turn 40 goals."
Let's just say everything you said here went thru my mind like a streaker in church, oye.
28 isn't fun. I think I'll just stick to 25 until I hit the three-OH then hover there for another fiver. Sounds like a plan.
Posted by: chiarunner | June 26, 2008 5:45 AM
I totally feel you. I am also 28 and when I turned 28 I said...ha that's funny I'm not closer to 30 than I am to 25, blah blah blah. Then recently I was like WAIIIIT. I'm going to be 29 in a few months. 29. And I was all, remember when we were 22 and how freaking *old* the 29 year olds were. I mean it's ridiculous cause 29 is not that old, but hot damn, it feels it. Anyways, we aren't *really* old, just that big ass round number is kinda annoying to be approaching.
Posted by: LeahC | June 26, 2008 6:30 AM
LOL AJ! I am 29 and married to a 38 year old!! When we started dating I was 23 and we got married when I was 28. Our age difference seems like nothing now.... except I love to remind him that when he was graduating from high school, I was 9! It freaks him out!
And yeh, everything 21centurymom said is TRUE!
Posted by: Tiggs | June 26, 2008 6:58 AM
I was having major anxiety about turning 29... and its really not so bad. 30 on the other hand. I am going to need major amounts of support (in the form of vodka, friends, and tissues) to get over that hurdle. But, I am trying to embrace the whole aging thing... what's funny is that I am more active NOW than I was 10 years ago.
Roll with it!
Posted by: Strugglepants | June 26, 2008 7:11 AM
Umm self-imposed curfews are really cool. So is being in bed by 10 every Friday night so you can get up super early to run/bike in the morning. Right? Right? Who's with me?
Posted by: Sarah | June 26, 2008 8:49 AM
Okay Dammit. 35 years old is NOT OLD. I am a 35 year old guy and am totally hurt by your comments!!!! :(
Posted by: Flatman | June 26, 2008 9:19 AM
Dude, 30 rocks. I was so psyched to turn over a new decade that was so much more filled with confidence and less of the "oh-who-am-I-gonna-be?" crap. 30's not older-- just bolder.
Posted by: Carly | June 26, 2008 11:26 AM
For some STRANGE reason, every guy remotely near my FANTASTIC age of 51 is looking for..."someone between 25-35."
They can all bite me. I'm going for some 70-year old triathlete!
Posted by: jeanne | June 26, 2008 1:11 PM
Listen to the other folks commenting--30 rocks. So many silly things fall by the wayside and you notice everyone (in your age group) starts focusing on things that actually matter.
It's a good time.
I can dig how all the societal and media pressures enforce this "fountain if youth" nonsense, but resist the urge to get suckered by it. 30's no different than 26--except the company's better ;)
Posted by: John at Hella Sound | June 26, 2008 8:56 PM
Ugh. Why did my comment post 85 times? Sorry 'bout that.
Posted by: John at Hella Sound | June 27, 2008 6:05 PM
Growing up does not mean growing old. You're only old when you stop growing.
And besides, if you REALLY want Mr. Forever, it's kind of hard to find him if you're just a kid playin' around. You're doin' fine.
Posted by: Greyhound | June 28, 2008 3:46 PM
Oh my I just came across your blog and this makes me laugh. I just turned 29 the other day and am freaking and realized my husband is almost 33 and he is old! Wait, I am getting old. yuck.
Posted by: monica | July 9, 2008 3:01 PM
Oh my I just came across your blog and this makes me laugh. I just turned 29 the other day and am freaking and realized my husband is almost 33 and he is old! Wait, I am getting old. yuck.
Posted by: monica | July 9, 2008 3:01 PM