It's Official
I'm divorced.
I'm alternately in hysterical tears or hysterical laughing, wanting to vomit or wanting to devour a cheeseburger or pizza...ultimately I'm taking care of myself by not eating emotionally and by reaching out to my friends, family and loved ones. I'm pretty speechless (gasp! so unusal!), but I'm glad it's over and final; I'm glad the paperwork is off my back; I'm glad he is still in my life and such a beautiful, wonderful person. I'm glad we shared 11 years and 5 days together and I'm glad I'm alive to feel the intensity of these alternating emotions of joy and pain, sorrow and relief, grief and courage.
Comments
I have no experience in this area, but I'm sure nobody could have summed up the emotions of it better than you just did. Just keep being "you." The rest will take care of itself.
Posted by: Chad in the Arizona Desert | January 4, 2007 12:01 PM
we need some new and better alternatives to marriage. regardless of the blog author's personal situation, marriage in its current form is a failed institution - a failed idea.
Posted by: Peter | January 4, 2007 12:47 PM
i am sorry for the roller coaster that has been for you and your family. it is so beautiful that you can have very positive feelings about him and the relationship. i am sure that will only continue over the years. i wish you and your family the best in 2007!
Posted by: matt | January 4, 2007 12:55 PM
*hugs*
You should be proud you are not giving in to emotional eating. It is just so easy to do and almost justifiable at this point.
Posted by: Laurie | January 4, 2007 01:31 PM
Bittersweet I'm sure... I really admire how positive and healthy you are striving to be throughout all this!
Posted by: Jessica | January 4, 2007 02:10 PM
Even though you feel emotionally twisted, it is still a great day for you. All of the anxiety and angst generated by the process of divorce is now behind you and your new life is before you. I’m constantly amazed at the positive attitude you’ve maintained throughout the past year and know that that the lack of animosity or hatred towards your ex will only help you as you get re-established.
Posted by: Phil | January 4, 2007 03:27 PM
Angie,
Bittersweet for sure. I, too, am glad that you've remained friends throughout.
Posted by: backofpack | January 4, 2007 04:33 PM
Angie, we are in the same boat. Being friends with a former spouse is SO important. It's better than being enemies.
Posted by: Denise "Firefly" | January 4, 2007 05:31 PM
knowing you can reach out to loved ones is a healthy perspective, good for you..
Posted by: neese | January 4, 2007 06:35 PM
Being friends after marraige can only benefit your beautiful boy. Great job! I can only speak from the perspective of the a step-mom, and step-daughter.
Posted by: Juls | January 4, 2007 07:24 PM
Angie, I'm just hoping that your emotions will become consistently happier as time goes on. I'm sorry to hear it but glad you have people you can reach out to. Best wishes...
Posted by: Curtis | January 4, 2007 07:48 PM
It seems like just yesterday you were announcing the split. Wow, that's quick. And coming on top of the bad day/week of housesitting (hey, isn't that supposed to be FUN to live in someone else's house?!) I'm sure just compounded the everything you must be feeling right now. It will get better...the hot water issue maybe sooner than the other.
Posted by: Anne | January 5, 2007 03:51 PM
Even though you're conflicted, you sound like you're ready to move forward. Good luck with everything.
Posted by: Donald | January 6, 2007 09:51 AM
as a former dumpee, i'm wondering how your former other half feels. i love all the 'you go girl' stuff, but what about the other person who's officially divorced today? i believe it was opf who demanded the divorce, si?
where's the other person? killed himself yet?
Posted by: Peter | January 6, 2007 10:55 PM