I love to run, running has become such a part of my life that I really can't imagine any better way of spending my free time. I love racing too, although "racing" is relative, I race against my own best times rather than trying to "win".
This coming Saturday I am signed up for my first race of the year, a 50K race in Rodgau, near Frankfurt, Germany. I have been training hard and the plan has been to try to set a new PR for the 50K distance.
However this past Friday night my wife reminded me that a good friend of ours has her birthday on the same day and we are invited for dinner. A quick calculation made it clear that there was no way I could run the race and make it to dinner on time. My wife said go to the race, she'd go to our friends alone.
I didn't say anything and thought about it for awhile. Later I was on the phone with my running friend Uli and I asked what her and Birgit had on the running plan for next Saturday, it turns out they wanted to start an hour earlier and run 30 km, which would have me home in enough time to make the dinner. I also mentioned to Uli about the birthday and she said when her and her boyfriend were training for their Ironman last year they often had to choose between friends and training, it put a lot of strain on friendships.
After this conversation the fog lifted and I had my answer, I would stay home from the race, there are more then enough other races on my schedule.
I was reading an article a few months ago that talked about people who become "addicted" to running, that is running is no longer their sport or hobby, it becomes an obsession. Clearly, many (most?) ultra runners are obsessive, but as the article went on to say it is the attitude that determines when running becomes an addiction. One of the signs was that you put your running and training before family and friends.
I think it is important that we control our running and not let it control us. In this case it means that my friend's birthday celebration has priority over a race. Although my wife remained nonchalant when I told her I was not going to the race, I know that it was a positive sign for her that my "addiction" is not totally out of control.
Have any of you guys had to decide between your training/racing and time with family and friends? Where has your priority been?